A Simple “How-To” Never Hurts

Just like me, you must be wondering what really fits here. The subject matter of this blog makes it really hard to put a “How-To” in. But I intend on trying to somehow make it work. First, we have to define what the “How-To” is, what problem we are going to tie it into, and finally, how in-depth can we make the tutorial?

A “How-To” in my opinion should be focused on a difficult, complex subject. I mean, if you are going to make a tutorial, you can at least focus on something that people actually need help figuring out. It doesn’t really do anyone any good if you decide to make a “How-To” on something like tying your shoes. I mean come on, you don’t have 5 year-olds reading blogs when they don’t have anything to do. Anyways, regarding my demographic and topic of the blog, what could I possibly “teach you”?

Like I said, you have to focus on something complex. Thinking about it, what is more complex than society. I mean, society itself is filled with embodiments of peer pressure, judgement, and anchors meant to bring you down. Society is filled with people who sit behind screens typically talking about topics they know little to nothing of, or just wish to brighten their days by saying something they most definitely should not have said. But you already know that, don’t you? In fact, if you’re reading this, you have either been a victim or perpetrator of either of these instances.

Alright now, how in-depth can we make it? With something like SOCIETY, I am sure that you’re thinking this could get pretty damn long. However, thinking rationally for a moment, if I text dump you a lot of stuff about “How to _____ society”, you may get a little lost. Probably even disinterested, and I wouldn’t blame you. I would too. I’ll make it short and sweet as I can, making sure that I get to the point as directly as possible.

Alright now finally, what can we make this “How-To” about and how is it geared to help you. Society brings a lot to the table that would take several days to really dissect and talk about, in depth. It would be ludicrous to think that I could pick apart each and every facet of it and try to break it down for you so instead lets just focus on facet. This aspect of society is essentially ever-present in your every day life. It isn’t specific to who you are, or what you do, it’s just kind of there. However, it is needless to say you can’t really ignore it either. One of the biggest things that society “attacks” is your self-image and the perspective of such. Don’t be fooled into thinking this is just a “girl” thing. This is universal to each and every one of us.

Our image is important to us, and for a good reason. How you wish to associate yourself with the world, your peers, and your family is arguably tied to your self-image. However society is tireless in trying to shape that image in what they call “a correct manner”. They actually believe that it is up to them to say who and what you are. As if you somehow signed up for some program that forces you to be subject to others saying “Hey, sorry you’re doing your life wrong. Try again.” Very hard to say this doesn’t get on your nerves. Especially if it comes in the form of “micro aggression”.

So stay posted, I’ll have a post rolling out soon talking about what society does, and how you can respond to this form of aggression.

Setting up the foundation

It’s really hard to define, or even talk about, the mind. Arguably one of life’s greatest mysteries, our minds hold the potential for virtually anything and everything. Creating, withholding, storing, learning, etc. Our minds are unique to each and every one of us. 7 billion people, 7 billion personalities, 7 billion different iterations of the same human form. Now, I am not here nor could I be here to explain the mind. What I am here for is a little bit more, personal. Each and every day we encounter different scenarios that shape who we are. Whether it’s picking up trash you see on the street, or saving someone from a burning building, our lives are crafted to shape who we are. Now, with that being said, life has to step in at some point and really mess things up, just to see how you would react. “If I put this here, what are you going to do with it” type of thing. Life brings each and every one of us highs, lows, plateaus, fantastic days, unbelievably shitty days; life can do it all.

To put it plainly, life can be scary and it is completely unpredictable. You don’t, and cannot, guarantee anything that goes on tomorrow. And for a lot of us, that’s terrifying, like me. Ever since I was a little kid, I hated “not knowing”. It was awful, and to use as an example let’s look at the typical humorous example that is Christmas. I always wanted to know what I had gotten; I would go extraordinary lengths just to appease my state of uncertainty. Moving to a little bit more of an extreme example, you can look at high school. I hated seeing people giving me side glances and talking at the same time. In fact, seeing that would give me anxiety and the irresistible urge to confront the group to find out what they were saying; assuming it was about me.

In short, I get anxious when I don’t know something. Regardless of that, I made the decision to make this blog. To make this “Safe Place” (horrible title but stay focused) that any and all are welcome to reading. A place where I can unload my thoughts, opinions and problems and see if maybe you could sort through your own confusion. I wish to upload texts and segments that once you finish reading through, you have another perspective on life itself and could maybe better yourself in the present/future. We’re all human and we are all going through struggles and issues that make, and sometimes break us. How are we expected to move forward if we can’t band together as a whole and pick each other up? Your Safe Place wishes to give you that helping hand. Here, society cannot reach you. Here, your bully that sits across from you in class cannot reach you. Here, your overly critical “friends”, cannot reach you. I am going to make myself vulnerable in a lot of ways in this blog, and I can only ask that you do the same, when you’re ready.